10 Tips to a Successful First Date
Post date: 2008-12-04
There are a number of goals that you need to achieve on a first date. You need to make a good first impression, get to know if the person is compatible with you, have fun and get the other person interested enough to continue dating you. Only by achieving those goals can you call your first date a success. Here are some tips that will help you have a successful first date.
Arrive on Time: Donít arrive late or early. Arrive on time, this shows that you are punctual, respectful and have your life together.
Location: Try to take your date to an interesting place that you know well. If you are going for dinner then go to an ethnic restaurant or a restaurant that is somewhat different. If you donít know your date well, dinner, a movie and perhaps drinks after the movie is a good plan. Even though itís traditional, the movie will give you a period in between where you can think of new conversation topics.
Relax: The tenser you are the more you will make your date nervous. Focus on having a good time, speak slowly and take a deep breath whenever you feel nervous.
Tell the Truth: Even though your date doesnít know much about you now, she/he will eventually get to know you better so be honest and donít lie. Trust is basis of any successful relationship so try to build that trust. Even if you decide at the end of the date that your date isnít compatible for you then donít say ďThat was fun letís do it againĒ.
Donít Try to Impress: Donít talk about the fancy car you are planning to buy, how much money you have or how big your house is if it doesnít come naturally in the conversation. This shows low self-esteem.
Be Confident: Be decisive while ordering dinner, donít take forever. Donít ask your date what she wants to do but rather suggest something and ask her for her opinion. Donít say ďI donít know, what do you want to doĒ but rather say ďHow about going for a couple of drinksĒ.
Conversation: This is one of the most important parts of the date. You need to keep the conversation interesting. Think of topics that your date might be interested in. Donít speak to her about cars or the football game last night. If you notice that the conversation is boring for your date start talking about a new topic. Another way to keep the conversation fun is to have multiple conversations going at the same time. Think of topics to speak about before the date. Also think of a number of interesting stories that you can start telling your date at anytime if you run out of things to speak about.
Be Happy: Donít start telling your date how depressing your life is. Be happy, fun and always have a smile on your face. Be a positive person. Remember in order to have a successful first date it has to be fun.
Tip Well: Guys make sure you pay the bill or at least offer and insist on paying it. Make sure you tip well, never less than 15%.
Ending: End the date before it gets boring. If you notice that the date is about to turn boring end the date while both of you are still enjoying it. This leaves a good memory of the date and increases the chances for a second date. Men should also always try to end the date first.
Finally be yourself, have fun and donít worry too much about how the date will go. The more you worry the more nervous you become and the less fun you have.