The Power of Asking and Female Relationships
Post date: 2008-12-04
When you become a pickup artist and an expert seducer you will soon notice that asking good things from women will improve your relationship with them much more than giving to them good things.
Asking has a magic power: as psychologist Robert Cialdini has pointed out in his writings when a person gives you good things this person is usually prone to backward rationalize "why am I doing this? I must like this person a lot if I do this for her."
Women were born with influence psychology in their blood as they did this for centuries to men long before Cialdini was even born.
This is also an important psychological mechanism which makes of men slave to their women, especially when they are in the provider role.
Many guys ask from themselves: "Why I do this? Why do I give her all of myself while she is being me such a bitch?"
Well because she is using the power of asking on you! She simply asks you things and she is making in that way of herself the prize in your eyes.
You can do the same !
In the field of female relationships you will not be able to appreciate this before you get enough field experience. You can see much better what I am talking about when you are able to seduce enough females and in a relatively short time.
This is because for as long as you are a slave of the "circle of luck" you will be inside your head willing to give, give and give to keep the woman you have just because you "got lucky."
The circle of luck means that usually men get women simply because they "got lucky" and not becuase of real field tested social skills.
Experience in pickup and seduction gives you freedom, the freedom of choosing. When you become good in doing pickup and know how to seduce you become a selector. Even if you are in a loving exclusive relationship or marriage never forget to ask !
You can ask gently or be cocky and funny..
Franco´s "Scratch my back!" is a funny, shortened version for amusing pick-up and seduction situations, not meant to be too serious. It gives very well the idea of what I am talking about.
Be specific when you ask.
Franco:"I like very much when you look at me with that new make up, I feel you should sit in this position, when you sit in this position I feel even better, ( changes her position ) ah I would love you to wear high heels and grow very long hair, I adore long hair!"
She complains? It is her problem, not yours. She knows you could ask the same things from another woman as well..
Franco:"I like to sit in good bars and restaurant, it is important for me that my woman likes the same. To feel a feeling of friendship and a real connection I need a woman who enjoys being out, meeting people, being social."
When asking use submodalities: be specific about color, shape, taste, dimensions, auditive features and so on.
Girl:"So what would you like for Christmas?"
Franco."I have seen a jacket at the male fashion department, it is blue and it is of that soft tissue I adore, it makes me feel so good when I move around, it will fit so nicely with that new watch I bought, the cologne you bought me last time will make of it even more pleasurable to senses.."
When you are are being specific in describing what you like and being specific in asking what you want your woman will feel that you are the prize and will be willing to give all of herself to you !
That is the moment you get the power in the relationship!
The difference between this kind of asking and a needy asking is crucial. You have to be an experienced pickup artist and seducer to do this in the right way otherwise you will get into "needy asking".
Your hidden message when you ask should be that you deserve being given good things without needing them "particularly" from her.
You need to give the vibe that you are used to receive good things and quite demanding about it.
This is mind blowing for the women in your life. In fact.. they do this to men all the time.
Women will get attached to you like insects to the honey when you will do it to them ! A woman will cherish you and love you to an extreme if you know how to ask things from her.
Put your energy into business, pick-up, seduction and never enter a relationship where you are being made weaker !